The main benefit of living in a large city is that interracial dating happens without any premeditation or preconception. You get to rub shoulders with friendly people from all over the world. A simple walk on the streets opens up a world of possibilities and could well turn out into you meeting a person from a different ethnicity who you like and may grow to like romantically.

When people from different ethnic groups meet, interracial dating usually makes parties involved take the initiative to explore each others cultures. They try to research as much as possible on the other person’s culture in order to capitalize on the common areas of their cultures.  And while doing this, one gets to learn what the other person holds dear about their culture and this is one of the ways to know if the relationship can work for both of you. Question is, are you willing to make compromises?

Over the years, people have had reservations about dating sites in general. And the biggest issue of all has been compatibility. “Will he or she be right for me? Going through interracial dating sites somehow helps one figure out the compatibility bit.  Search parameters for physique, hobbies, educational background, and race allow you to at gauge compatibility levels.  And with more people registering on a daily basis, each new interracial personals ad increases the odds of finding that compatible person. And since most of the interracial dating sites are chat enabled, it’s easier to get to know one another before committing into a romantic relationship.

Once you start interracial dating, be prepared for some flak from friends and family from both sides coz much as we like to think people of today are enlightened, not everyone will be comfortable with your interracial relationship. How you handle this will also determine whether you are right for each other or not.  If the two of you love each other enough, then you won’t feel this storm.

Much as some people still have issues about interracial dating, the beauty is that every additional relationship moves us much closer to global unification. And race will never determine whether your partner will be right for you. It’s their personality that counts.

I was watching Chris Rock’s latest stand up comedy and couldn’t help but roll my eyes at his views on interracial dating – black and white dating to be precise. And after hearing what he had to say, I realized for as long as black and white dating exists, black women white men will always be at each other’s necks especially when a white man dates a black woman and when a black man dates a white woman.

Back to Chris Rock: In his view, all black men do when they date white women is exercising an option. And black women get upset by this. He says the real reason black women get angry is because they are not attracted to white men hence cant exercise their option. They will sleep with ‘pretty white boys’ when in real sense, they aren’t attracted to white men in general.

The blame games, the justifications and the prejudiced remarks never end when black and white dating is on the table. It’s like a constant tug-of-war between black men and black women. And over what …the other groups’ dating preferences? When black women opt for interracial dating, black men say they do it out of desperation. And Chris Rock’s explanation suggests so. It’s like black and white dating is a last resort for the black woman.

People date interracially as a matter of choice or preference. And for those who happened to stumble onto interracial dating, I believe it’s because they stumbled upon a gem … someone worth taking the risk of being stared at and possibly being rejected by family over.

Maybe Chris Rock is right. Maybe black women need to broaden they options and do more of black and white dating or date interracially in general. But no one should mistake this for desperation because its not. Everyone deserves to be loved and when you meet the one who sweeps you off your feet, instead of worrying about what the men or women of your race will think of it, act on your love impulse.

This getting worked up over black and white dating isn’t necessary coz while giving yourself peptic ulcers trying to come up with the most prejudicial reasoning for interracial dating, someone else’s peptic ulcers that were caused by years of loneliness are getting healed by interracial love which is as real as any other.