By Dr. Dot
drdot@drdot.com

I am dating a new guy and everything is great, but when it comes to oral sex, he gets mad that I won't swallow his sperm. Why do men have this thing about a woman swallowing? As long as I suck it, whyÊdo they care where it goes?

I am willing to spend a lot of time sucking cock and licking balls and have been told I'm pretty good at it. But when he is starting to cum, I grab his cock and keep a tight rub on it so he feels good. I do not want that stuff in my mouth. What's the problem? Although I love to be eaten my favorite thing is to have my tits sucked and milked. If some disgusting liquid came out, I wouldn't care if he swallowed. Just suck it. Am I off base?

Not Having It Nancy

First of all, you should think of starting a career in sexy journalism. I am sure you have most of the men who read your letter wondering how to get in touch with you, as women who like to spend a lot of time sucking cock and licking balls are highly sought after.

Swallowing a man's tide shows that you accept him, every drop of him. His sperm is his personal liquid gold, his most valuable juice. If you won't swallow it, it's kind of like saying, "You aren't good enough to swallow."

If his spunk smells or taste funny to you, it is nature's way of telling you, "Don't breed with this wanker!"ÊIf you are in love, you should want to swallow his spunk (unless it's clam chowder style, in which case anyone would understand the resistance). But if you just can't seem to bring yourself to do so, then tell the guy up front, "I will suck you 'til the cows come home, but I don't swallow. If you have a problem with that, then we will just skip the whole blow-job part of our relationship." This should solve that problem immediately, as all men would choose a blow-job with no swallowing over no blow-job at all.

I am writing about excessive body hair. I've really been struggling with this the past few years. It started when I was about 22. I use to have a little hair on my chest, which I didn't mind at all, but it seemed to get worse over the years. By the time I turned about 28, the hair on my chest had spread all over my stomach and then started to get hair on my neck, back, ass, ears, nose, and everywhere else in unwanted places.

I tried to ignore it but it just got out of control. One night when I was a little buzzed I shaved my arms, but I couldn't seem to stop there. (By the way, it's true that you shouldn't shave body hair because it will come back thicker and nastier.)

I've never tried waxing because it sounds painful and I think I have too much hair and in private places to hire someone to wax me all over. I remember seeing an advertisement for the smooth epilady years ago but I heard it is very painful too. I don't think laser hair removal is advanced enough either. Plus from what I understand, the laser only will take care of black hairs only after many treatments and it does nothing for the white type of hairs on our bodies and I can't really afford an expensive solution. What can I do?

Fuzzy Fred

It sucks that you are unhappy about your hairy body. It is something that you really can't change. Just know that there are women who love a hairy man, and that one day you'll find one who loves you so much that she even digs your fur.

Men are supposed to be hairy. Women usually want someone who is the opposite of us. We are smooth and soft,Êso we yearn for men who are hairy and hard.

Please, just embrace yourself, as life is so short and there is no point in worrying about something you have no control over. Everyone has something about themselves that they really want to change, but women love a confident man, so I suggest you start feeling comfortable in your own skin and hair.

Be cocky about it. Know that it means you have loads of testosterone and you are a really potent man.ÊGrow toÊbeÊso confident about it that you can even ask your new gal, to trim it a bit with a comb and scissors once in a while. Honestly, my advice is to love yourself. It will be contagious.